I've read and watched many love stories all these years but I've never written one, a true story which is based on my own love story. This might not be as great as any love stories out there, however everything that you will be reading is not made up. I truly mean them all for each and every word of this posting. So, here is my love story.
A first class honours Computer Science graduate who excels in many co curricular , falling in love with an average Commerce graduate who was never active in anything. I was just a normal girl next door that you will probably find many on the streets. We did not recall each other when we first met. In fact, he thought I was a princess diva cum 'la-la' girl with that super curly long locks. Whereas I thought that he was just another typical chubby programmer nerd at the workplace who party all night long and date only pretty girls that meets his standard.
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Failed permed super maggi mee curly hair vs chubby boy trying to act cute
Random guy came and add me on Facebook and took me so long to figure out who's this person with a 'chimp' profile picture.
This wasn't the average 'love at first sight' love story. We met each other at our previous workplace which is a college, a place where I studied for my degree. Slowly, we realised the existence of each other when he always drop by to look for one of my colleague. He realised that I've cut off my long curly locks and made a change to my outlook and I realised that he wasn't that boring programmer that I will never dial the extension to seek for help during work. We started to talk to each other and get to know each other better after a while. At that point of time, I was in a terrible condition with my previous relationship and close to breaking off. Whereas, he ended his just a few months ago.
We didn't even have each other's handphone number during the start but merely chatting through Facebook. There were moments that I knew he was out there doing support, and I will hold my documents for other department's to use as excuses to walk around and hoping to bump him somewhere in the college. Please don't ask me where did I get the courage to do such silly stuffs. Coincidentally, there was one fine day that I bumped into him three times without making any efforts and since then I'm his "jie jie" and he's my "unker". We were fooling around and I pulled his lanyard then and we both got into a very awkward situation.
Two very random photo that's in matching outfit taken on separate occasions found on our childhood album
So I got his number through a colleague because I needed to ask him some stuffs (NO, not using these as excuses, or hmm maybe I was haha). Our first encounter through mobile was when I typed the whatspp by giving him a text with caps and exclamation mark with his name. He probably thought was some random guy coming after him for money. Since then we have been chatting and perhaps sharing many problems I've encountered to him. Somehow I do get mad when he doesn't reply my text messages after a night. He knew and came back and asked if I'm mad, but I just told him I have no rights to do so. So this I guess this is the typical flirting or 'fishing' period that most of the couples go through before getting together?
In fact, we were pretty unsure if we really met each other the first time in our previous workplace or, we have bumped into each other during primary school. I've always dreamt of that boy who helped me up when I fell down on the basketball court with that big heavy bag when a teacher just walked past me without offering a hand (if you studied in a chinese school, you'll probably get what I mean here). Well, memory doesn't allow me to recall back that far, but I chose to believe that perhaps he was that boy I wanted to thank but forgotten since my knee was badly injured and I was in much pain.
These were like the first set of photos that we have taken together as 'close friends' during a Karaoke night outing
I recalled a dream that was so surreal, that the moment I woke up from it that I almost thought it was for real. The dream when he held me in his arm so tightly and never wanting to let go.
We did not chose to pursue or jump into another relationship that soon, due to the situation that I was in. However, I realised that I couldn't control my feelings for him anymore, that I've never found someone whom I can relate so much as if we have known each other for years even before we met. I made a confession to him first, that I have feelings for him and I can't hide them. Being that I'm a girl who's really straight forward, I was never afraid to express my feelings. Because I knew if I didn't chose to do so at that time, I'm missing out something really great.
I really enjoyed doing random stuffs. Randomly saw this and hop on and he decided to tag along the fun, well isn't this what life's all about. For not giving a damn at times.
He told one of my best mate that he doesn't have any feelings for me. But I recalled those messages, each and every one of them. Just like how could a guy offered to come by and pick you up for clinic over a cold, called you up and ask if you're out having lunch and needed a ride back to workplace due to rain, bought food and desserts back for you, knowing that you have cravings for a particular bubble tea and drop by to get them and offered to walk you out for lunch with an umbrella under the hot sun because you were unwell. Together with those text messages that points to the sign that he was really interested in you. Please advise me how should I not take all these seriously, or perhaps he does this to every other girl out there?
Of all, one fine day asked if I know anyone who have a sleeping bag and needed that for the next day. I was guessing that he have like tons of friends on Facebook and why of all me? I was then warned by my best mate to stop doing such things and putting hopes in him. Then we started going out during random nights, and my aunt got worried because there's this new colleague guy who occasionally drop me home when it's super out of the way. Random nights that he came to pick me up at 12am for a drink and we often forgot about time chatting until 2am when we still have work the next day. There were lots of memories at the neighbourhood's mamak stall, Starbucks, Strawberry fields and Island cafe. How Miki used to hate him so much that she would bark at him and put her four legs against this bad Unker. Compared to now getting way too excited and pee every time she sees him without fail.
Miki's 5th Birthday with our two precious daughters
Eventually, he took a leap of faith and without realising, he fell for me. Being the girl that allows him to be himself whilst being with me. He realised that I wasn't that princess, but the girl who's willing to dirty her hands for hard work and make sacrifices in life to be with the one she love which is him. Pretty tough to make this guy admit his feelings and make up that very decision. We started our journey whilst watching 'Ice Age' and he granted a 'warranty period' aka trial period with no deadline. There was still like tons of whatsapp messages from many prospects during that time. However, relationship is all about being yourself with that person. Being at the same page, sharing the same vision in life, being connected and that kind of explainable chemistry that happens deep inside. Fate have brought us together but we decide to chose our own destiny and journey ahead.
Warranty card that I made, for real
After being hurt much in the previous relationships, I've told myself not to commit and fall hard for a guy anymore in my life. I was really afraid of being hurt and harmed having to go back to the state of depression again. I've never thought what or how far this relationship will bring me until where we are today. I've never thought how much would this person mean to me, and how important or how much impact or changes he brought into my life since then until today.
Over a million, zillion people in this world and how glad you're to find a soul mate amongst them. Some took a lifetime and yet still searching ...
There wasn't one single person that I knew off in our previous workplace who shares exactly the same personality profiles, and usually the people with the same personality don't get along too well in life. Surprisingly we both share a very close personality profile but get along pretty well. I guess, we share many common life goals, perspectives that brought us together after all. There's still a little difference in terms that he's not so good in planing and time management and I'm not so good with coordination and logic which is how we compliment each other. Whereby, I will usually do research and plan for a trip and he will be my best navigator ever because I just can't read a map properly.
Most recent Hong Kong trip during March 2014
As they said that the person who truly loves you, will not be afraid to tell you and point out your flaws so that you would be a better person for your own good. He have taught me many things in life and vice versa to him as well. I admit that I was once a pretty selfish person but after knowing him and looking at all the kind deeds, I've changed my perspective towards many things in life. Just like how I feel happy these days through simple gesture just stopping lettering passerby cross the road, holding the lift door and door for others. Doing them without expecting a return, but smile and thank you from others seemed to cheer up my day a little.
Heh, can you imagine that I'm driving this turbo car now and every time I tekan, seemed like the fellor is farting slowly.
From a guy who used to have really bad road rage and chase after idiotic drivers on the road with his super turbo charged SLK (#smalllittleKenari) taking the highway like his F1 race track to a person that improves so much. Though sometimes he still go over the ramp to get to the other side of the road. Next time when you see a Ranger driving like this in Klang Valley, you won't even need to take a guess of who's the driver. Also, how much he have cut down in drinking and smoking along these 2 years.
We made each other to be a better person in a whole. If you really love the other person, you won't try to change the person but instead you will make him/her a better person and he/she will take the advice out of care and love.
First photo that we took together after we started
To be continue... #2
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