The priceless journey with you

What is the definition of a perfect ending? Most of the people loves to watch movies and dramas with perfect endings, and if it doesn't end that way, many would said that the movie suck big time and they wasted their time on watching them.

There's a quote that goes by, "I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned the hard way, that some poem doesn't rhyme and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's gonna happen next".

Every relationship will have a perfect start. We all started with nothing, with no expectations from each other. It was once exciting while being at the exploration stage with each other. When the time goes by, more expectations will fall in and we will start counting what the other half have not done for us instead of being appreciative of each small things in our daily life. Maintaining has always been the most difficult part of the relationship, whether one actually falls out of love eventually. Other pressures and things around that's affecting us will also made us to be more calculative and suppressed.

From how we got close together, chat and thoughts that we shared made us felt that we are compatible in some way but there was the time when I placed no hope on pursuing something beyond our friendship.  We started with no expectations towards each other, but just even a small thought like making a cup of tea would make me a happy girl. Eventually things might become a routine, but we still constantly reminding ourselves to say thank you and be appreciative and count my blessings from each other and a thank you message before bedtime every night.

This song brought a significant meaning behind

Every relationship have the 'honeymoon' period, so applies for us as well. Honeymoon period was great when we had fun exploring many coffee places, catching every latest movie in the cinema, and just snuggle to catch a movie on the couch. There were surprises after surprises during special occasions especially during birthdays, valentine's days and random days. But eventually things as such will slipped away once we have passed the period and when we start to get busy about work. Greater commitments even comes in when you buy a place and everything have to be done from scratch.

Here's the special homemade lunch made with lots of love during the honeymoon period.

Well but don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that I don't get any of these anymore during these days, once a while but I'm still glad of it. Surprises will eventually become lesser, even myself I've stopped doing things like preparing a card to be open and read every single day for the things that I appreciate. Making  like at least a few handmade stuffs during birthday, I still do just lesser but at least I still appreciate every single thing which is made from the heart.

I would see this as a completely different phase of life. Many couples will struggle in this trial period, I wouldn't say that we don't have any problems, we do ... a lot in fact, just that which are the ones who manage to hold strong and make their relationship through the next phase in life. We have a collection of sweet memories within these 2 years and yet there should be a long list ahead that we wish to explore together in future. 

The 2nd anniversary that we made time out of the busy schedule at Sekeping Serendah.

Here we are in another phase of life into buying a place together. Making that very decision wasn't easy, after much thoughts and consideration, having a place of our own is necessary. We are no longer small kids and was decided that having a place is a good long term commitment to have by now. We did went through many hiccups and only manage to get a place the 3rd time. They've always said that 3rd time is a charm. And hey, coincidentally he's my 3rd boyfriend too :) 

Nevertheless I'm glad that all my hard work since I started working at 21 years old was really paid off by having this place. At least we both know that we have worked blood and sweat out for a place we can call home sweet home. We painted the whole place with a little help from my cousin, did many things from scratch, fixing things together. Though the surprises was lesser as mentioned, but these were the things that's truly worth, because the experience of us putting up a place together is irreplaceable with any materialistic stuffs. As how we share the same passion in life that we cherish such things in life and not just simply hiring people to get things done. Priceless.

Besides, other than buying the place with our own hard earned money I'm thankful to all my family members who are constantly supportive and sponsored us many electrical items at home. My gratitude to all of them that my house would not be complete with their generosity to us.  

There's still many trials ahead of us. Perhaps, what was being seen on the surface was always the good side but the untold story will remain silent. Life was never meant to be easy, but yet we still need to wake up and face life every day. Somethings in life when we don't have an option to change, we will just need to make ways and both party will have to come into agreement into achieving the same goal or dream. 

In all, we really did went through much to be where we are today. Whatever that may comes and the existing ones we shall be committed to each other in order to make things possible. There's a long and tough journey ahead of us, for the objections or the obstacles that's going to make us fall again and again, we shall held each other's hand and help each other up. I was really tired and I've thought of giving up in some point of time, but I'm glad that you've held me tightly and assured me that you will not let me go. Never an easy task to find a soul mate in life, whom you just felt so comfortable with and the one you wish to spend the rest of your life together. 

To my other half. thank you for standing by me through good and bad times. I still appreciate every little thing and thoughts that you have for me all the time. Thank you for bracing through the trials in life and made me felt that I'm worth. You're one of a kind that I can never find someone else like you ever for that kind of love and caring that you've given to me. You're my one and only and you mean a lot to me and I'll always cherish our relationship. I can't promise you the moon and stars, but I will try my best to stand strong and face whatever that's ahead of us. 

亲爱的，我爱上别人了

在略读完一篇戏剧的剧情介绍有的感言。- 亲爱的，我爱上别人了

我不是个喜爱疯狂追戏的女孩。我只喜欢看对我有意义的戏剧。因为，通常戏剧还没做完，开头的时候我已经猜到结局了。不是人生无常，而是戏里来来去去都是在扮演着一样的故事。通常都会是完美的结局，因为戏就是为看的人而演，人当然就是喜欢完美的结局。如果结局不好的话，我们都会说，浪费了我那么多的时间去看整部戏。而且人有时是非常的爱观看一些跟自己有关的戏，然后就会联想到自己有多惨。甚至于戏里都没那么的凄凉，然后就会创造一些假象好像自己是里面的角色，甚至幻想身边的人会跟戏里做出一样的东西。有时候，看上太多的戏只会给与自己更多无谓的幻想，没必要的担忧。本身比较喜欢看电影多过连续剧。因为，对急性的我来说等待着结局太辛苦了。

婚姻到底是什么？是两个人对对方的承诺，是法律上有效的夫妇关系？是能一起白头到老的完美结局，是被捆绑或被对方捆绑的一种说法？是因为爱所决定，是因为在一起太久了而必须做的下一步？ 是想跟对方永远再一起，是放不下对方的决定？是肯定对方，是逃避现实？ 是个快乐的开始，还是个噩梦的开始？筹备结婚那么重要的日子一定用上了至少一年的时间来完成，从储蓄，选婚纱拍婚纱，选择哪里摆酒编排酒席，华人的习俗，过大礼一直到结婚当天，花上的钱，时间，心思一切因该都不少。而离婚，就只用了那几分钟的时间那一点请律师的钱，过后就变成了两个陌生人。

可能这就是许多年轻人选择不想结婚的原因。就是因为套上了戒指，也不代表是永恒。你是否也曾望着他睡觉时熟悉的那个背影，但却感到距离万分，你发现原来根本就不明白你每晚的枕边人。就算是你每天有非常多的要想和他分享，但你一看到他回到家，累得躺在一旁自然的就没什么好说，就这样睡觉，然后明天又依然的重复直到你发现原来有个人在你身旁和没有其实是没什么分别。到头来，问问自己，过这样的生活有意义吗？

在这戏里，女主角是为了要逃避某某生活上的挫折，而男主角是为了要逃避当年所犯下的错误而一起步入了婚姻。当我们各自都背着包袱而选择做出某某的决定，可能是会后悔一生而埋怨对方的理由。女主角放弃了她的事业，当上了家庭主妇。先开始的时候，牺牲可能是一种幸福，可是当牺牲越来越多而对方又没珍惜的时候，牺牲就渐渐成为生活上的一种负累。你可能会开始计算你到底为了对方牺牲了多少，有时想想为什么他就不能像你一样的付出？这时候的你，就可能会开始觉得这段感情好累。

女主角说着这句 “结婚越久我反而觉得我已经不认识对方，我们共同的话题就越来越少，有着累计年月的谎言，女人就是知道越少越好，而且知道也就要假装什么都没听到，也不需要过问太多”。当男主角发现一切的时候，当然也就太迟了。以前的连五分钟都没时间给的，现在却有许多时间，但两个人已经无法回到从前一样，有时间也变得无话可说，通常男人都会等到失去的时候才会懂得珍惜。经常是因为我们都把身边对我们好的人放到最后一位，虽然口头上是说他们有多么的重要，可是你用良心问自己，你是否常常都把工作，朋友，和身边其他不重要的事情才是放第一位？当年年所承诺一切，你有是否做得到？还是经常都用上了这几个字“我很忙”，“没时间”，“不得空”来当作借口？因为爽约朋友们都会说你没用怕老婆，所以你需要面子。而家里的老婆就可也等，她也是永远那个最体谅你的女人，他也是那个唯一对你不离不弃的好女人。所以，你就常常选择把她当成牺牲品。女主角所说的其实女人很容易哄，只要每天关心她，常常对她说你有多爱她，关心她，抽空给她你的时间，女人就会为了那么少的东西就感动万分。这样的你会感觉到她对你做的一切也会双倍奉还，日子容易过，也幸福了许多。

在戏里跟现实，有时候很多的争吵都不是因为对方的问题，而是因为大家身边的人，事，物。人，就是家人，为了要满足他们的要求，常常都为了小事导致意见不和。而男人常常都为了避免繁琐的事务而选择了说谎，然后就制造了更大的谎言。当家人发现了，难为的通常都是女人，为了要解释通常都会被上罪名。女主角就是因为常常被男方的家人压迫，看小而在心理埋藏了许多，也没人可奉告就选择逃避。事，就是生活中常常都避免不了的小插曲。我们经常都为了小事而争吵，可是到头来却觉得毫无意义。就可能是为了忘记买一盒牛奶而吵架，甚至联想到 “常常叫你做什么事都做不好，一天到晚都没把东西放在心上，就是那么的不可靠”。有时生气时候说了的话就不能收回，你可能已深深的伤害了对方。 物，我们身边有好多物品，物品上有非常多的解释。其中就是有时就是因为要跟别人比较而不能满足生活上物品的需求而让自己感到失落。比来比去到最后是为了什么？就是为了放在面子书上看有多人Like？能买给你名牌货品的就是好老公？式着想想到底背后有着什么意义？

到最后结局就是女主角遇上了另一个适合她的男人，一个可以满足她的需求就是可以给与她时间和幸福的男人，过上了开心简陋的生活。而前夫也选择了做出最大的牺牲，因为知道自己是没办法给与你最爱的人幸福，倒不如放手。 过后的男主角也再娶，可是老婆却是为了掏家人欢欣但永远都不再是那个最爱的老婆。故事想说着就是珍惜眼前人，不要等到失去时才后悔。很多事都不可能再重来，失去的也不会再让你重新的开始。

The Journey and Guide to A Budget Condo - S&P

Times are tough these days for middle income earners. We took years to save enough just to buy a house of our own, and mostly are only able to afford a middle class condo in prime areas of PJ or KL area. Nothing seems to be less than RM400/psf in all these prime areas unless you're talking about low cost houses or those which is pretty far. 

We spent most of our savings on the deposit for the house, lawyer fees etc and nothing much left for renovation. Maybe some prefer to buy a sub-sale house with everything done including fittings and fixtures, but some prefer to buy a new bare unit instead of repairing old stuffs which might cost as much as well. But bare in mind that the lawyer fee and stamping fee for a subsale can be really costly. 
There's 2 sides of lawyer fee that you will be paying which is one for the S&P and the other one for the loan. In my case, I paid close to 15k for the S&P stamping and lawyer fees and about 10k for evaluation and loan agreement. Therefore, before you laid your signature on the booking form, you better have all these budget calculated.

Subsale Property from Signing of Booking Form to S&P to Key Handover, HOW?

1. Decided on the property to purchase and signed the booking form.
Normally the agent wouldn't return you the booking form immediately and you're expected to prepare a cheque of 2-3% as a deposit from the 10% downpayment for the house. The agent will then bring this booking form and cheque to the owner and the owner to sign the booking form. The agreement is only counted as legal and binding when the seller accepted the offer.

Be very careful after you sign the booking form. Calculate the time given, which is normally 2 weeks. Clarify with the seller or agent if this 2 weeks are including weekends and public holiday (normally they don't take account). Your deposit can be forfeited if you do not have your loan approval by then. I've met a conman as such, giving all kinds of excuses for the delay. Worse case, lay down this clause to protect yourself before you sign the booking form "Earnest deposit will be refunded fully if loan fails". 

2. Application for loan with bank (Skip this if you're rich enough to settle with cash)
You should already have a list of bankers on hand or some introduced by the property agents, prepare all the necessary documents to be submitted to the bankers. Normally they will ask you for these documents: Booking form, previous S&P, Copy of IC, 3 months of payslip, latest EPF statements, bank statements showing your montly salary (must be certified by bank), any other supporting documents like FD, Amanah Saham and if your employment length is less than a year in the current company, they will ask you for your confirmation letter.  

Bank statements: Savings account don't normally have up to date bank statements. You need to head over to bank and request from the officer to print. There will be a fee that's being charge either by per page or a one time fee plus per page charge. Some bank takes half a day to 1 day to produce statements. 

Martial status: Most of the bank will not ask the marriage cert from you, but advised to tick as husband and wife on the form or they might question you due to some complications involved. 

3. Engage your own S&P Lawyer
Advise to engage your own S&P lawyer to deal with all these matters. In case of any disputes, your S&P lawyer will stand to protect your rights. Don't engage the same lawyer with your seller, there might be a conflict of interest. 

Your S&P lawyer will be asking for the previous copy of the S&P signed. He/She will be preparing a draft copy of the S&P while you get your loan approved. 

4. Loan approval
Once you've provided sufficient documents to your banker, normally the approval only takes about 1-3 working days. My experience was really pleasant with Maybank, they only took 1 day and the next day I got a 90% full semi-flexi loan approval on my phone via SMS with BLR -2.4. Some other banks with full flexi came out with clauses that says I need to deposit xx amount in FD for 3-6 months in order to enjoy a higher BLR rate.   

You will then pick the loan that you wish to take, and then sign off the loan agreement with your banker. 

5. Finalising S&P and Loan agreement
Normally for loan agreement your banker will have you go with their appointed panel lawyer. Each bank will have a list of panel lawyer firms that they appoint to get the loan agreement done. I'm lucky enough to have my S&P law firm to be under Maybank's panel and both of agreements were done by the same firm which speed up the process. 

Your S&P lawyer will take on most of the things from then onwards including liaising with your seller to obtain the necessary documents ie Deed of Assignment etc. A date will be arrange with the seller and yourself to get the S&P sign within the timeline.  

Upon signing the S&P, you will be given 3+1 month to complete the whole process until key handover. For subsale, the chances of delay and dragging on the process is pretty high, some even take about 6 to 9 months to complete the process. 

In our case, I would have to give credit to my S&P lawyer, he's diligent and follow-up closely in obtaining the documents. He would always be the one chasing me for documents, instead of myself asking him for updates. My seller got a bit annoyed, because he constantly chase them to get the things done. You really need such a lawyer to get things done. He even helped to arrange for us to sign both the S&P and loan agreement on the same day, saving us a lot of trouble.

6. Almost there
You're almost there. Your lawyer will redeem the necessary documents from the previous bank of your seller and assign the power of attorney. Your seller should have paid up all the maintenance fees, water bills, electricity bills, insurance... and apportionment will be done accordingly. 

Power of Attorney (PA) is a power given by the land owners to someone to act on behalf of the owner including signing all documents, transfer, caveat, charge etc (if full power is given).

Finally, when the long and tedious process comes to an end, you will be getting your keys. 

Next: Withdrawal of EPF 

终于等到你

当我第一次听到这首歌就觉得他特别有意义。就像把我们全部的心声都说了出来。怎么听得都不觉得厌倦。歌词的背后埋藏着意义浓厚的故事。 相信每个人都有着不同的故事，可是这首歌就是为你们的故事而写。

我的故事可能不是里面最感动的一个，可是对我来说可能是比童话故事里来的感人。

当初所做出的决定，放下10年一切，就是因为固执和当年的幼稚相信着那种爱情才是爱情。别人的话都听不进去，把他们当废话一样往外抛掉。年轻的一辈，姐姐（别叫我阿姨）劝你们，那种折磨，痛苦并不是爱情。经常吵架不是培养感情而是感情出了问题，就是因为你们两人连简单的事情都商量不来还要谈结婚过一世。女孩们，你们真的要看清楚对方，这样的男生真的要放下。因为他们是永远都不会改变，也不可能会给你幸福的。他们一次又一次的向你认错，道歉过后又对你许下的承诺大多数都是谎言。他们的自尊心太过强，从不向你道歉。他还会说反话让你觉得内疚，就是好像本来是他犯的错，可是他都会让你跟他道歉。通常都会觉得他做的一切都没错，你不管他，他也不会自动的来找你。只有对我真心的朋友才会明白或感受的到，我所经历过的一切。

相信每个人都有着一个不同的经历，尝过爱情当中的酸甜苦辣，让我们在爱情跌倒时再站会起来的过程，学习如何放下因该放下的一切，如何重新开始另一段感情。没感情是不需要长期的经营，没感情是不劳而获而能和伴侣白头偕老。

就是我到了这个年纪，让我发现我自己需要的是什么。我不需要一个从来都没对我动过真心，别说真心连忠心也办不到。我不需要一个没大志的男人，一个只会埋怨工作的，天天顾着打机的男人。一个只会花钱而没考虑过将来的男人。一个不认错，自私自以为事的男人。我需要的是一个可以给到我安全感的男人，一个可以托付终身的男人。一个知道自己要什么，为我们将来着想的男人。一个有爱心，一个有同情心，乐意助人的男人。一个成熟不为了小事而和我吵架的男人。一个勇于面对现实，不浪费时间干无所事事的男人。一个会试着了解，愿意和我一次倾谈的男人。一个会给与我幸福，常常逗我开心的男人。一个对我忠心，决不偷吃的男人。一个让我明确知道感到幸福，然后肯定他就是那个对的人。一个我们能一起共同承担，同甘共苦共度一生的男人。

事先申明，这不是结婚戒子啦，是他用来暂时绑住我让别的男人以为我结婚了的前年的情人节礼物。请别误会。

陪你聊天的朋友越来越少，大家都忙于工作开始过自己的新生活。结婚的都该结婚，生孩子的都忙着顾孩子。大家都好像展开了下一段的旅程。

还好上天没辜负我，我终于都等到这个人的出现。我找到了他。

一生兜兜转转，虽然我们在三年前认识，可是在一起时就觉得认识对方有好一段日子。我们可能在小学有见过对方，可能他就是那个在我跌倒时扶我起来的那位小男孩。小时的记忆就那么的模糊，可是总觉得我们有遇见过对方。 人生就是那么的奇妙，远在天边进在眼前。

还好当初我没放弃，还好我鼓起了勇气向他表白没让我错过了这位好男人。我们可能差点几乎错过对方，因为可能时间来的不合适。可是命运让我们走在一起，发生过全部的事情就仿佛像上天的安排在那个时候遇到他。他就像是上天所派来的天使，我从没那么坚决地肯定是时候放下前一段不值得我去追求的感情。这并非是第三者的介入，因为我早已对我上一段感情步入绝望的阶段。结束了上一段感情，让自己鼓起勇气再次追求我所相信的爱情。虽然有被拒绝过，就是这样差点的错过反而让他更肯定不能错过这段感情。

到了某个年纪，你会发现原来刻苦铭心并不重要，你需要的是一个让你能过平淡日子体会爱的味道，就这样一起过完下一半的人生。就像当初年轻时过着疯狂日子，参加派对，常常干那些无所谓的事，原来在这个年纪的你已经感到厌倦就只想好好的，安稳的于你爱的人过日子。不再追求什么荣华富贵，不再追求什么世纪婚礼，不再渴望一段轰轰烈烈的感情，不再让自己承担不该受的委屈，不想再自己一个人过日子，只想和他一起分担我们的未来。

再这个年纪再找一个跟自己合适，性格相配还要是你爱的人可没那么容易。世界上千千万万个人，我们的遇见并不是巧合而是命中注定。要找一个跟我对小动物有爱心和耐心的男人，因该好不容易。因为大多数的男人都会觉得这样的东西是浪费时间，他们又如何会愿意和我一起救了一个满身打结被蚊虫缠着的小狗，耐心的把她身上的毛毛都剃掉，然后还帮她冲凉。直道她被好的人家领养走，那种感动的落泪是无法诉说。救了一个小动物可能对其他人毫无意义，可是对我们来说是给了一个生命重生的机会。

当初我们所遗失的笑容，因为对方的出现我们又重新找回着被遗忘而旧的笑容。两个人的快乐不是一个人的快乐。所谓的就是当对方不开心时就会直接的影响对方。而身边的朋友和亲人就是最好的见证。我们彼此的出现，在对方的身上添加了笑容。就是因为我们能做自己爱做的事，不需要再扮演上虚假的角色。那种感觉是无法用言语解释，只能透过照片或在现实生活当中体验得到。一个人的快乐，是受对方的影响也牵连到身边的所有。

就是因为幸福来的可好不容易，让我们更加珍惜这段感情。虽然，一路走来我们经历了不少可是当中包含着酸甜苦辣。从刚开始到现在，终于都有了一间属于我们的家。当中的过程可是经过多少血汗和努力而换回来，那种满足感却是充满了兴奋和快乐。可能它现在只是一间空空的屋子,可是我相信我们的再多的努力和DIY将把它变成一个温馨的家。

虽然还有一段很长的路要走，可是有你的陪伴让我不再孤单。甜蜜的时间过的很快，可是只需要对方互相经营着一段感情，过了十年五十年，等到变成老夫老妻还是可以一样的甜蜜。

到了某個年紀你就會知道
一個人的日子真的難熬
漸漸開始嘗到孤單的味道
時間在敲打著你的驕傲

過了某個路口你就會感到
徹夜陪你聊天的越來越少
厭倦了被寂寞追著跑
找個愛你的人就想托付終老

能陪我走一程的人有多少
願意走完一生的更是寥寥
是否刻骨銘心並沒那麼重要
只想在平淡中體會愛的味道

終於等到你還好我沒放棄
幸福來得好不容易
才會讓人更加珍惜
終於等到你差點要錯過你
在最好的年紀遇到你
才算沒有辜負自己
終於等到你

忘了，珍惜

在这个繁忙又现实的社会当中，有多少人忘了回到最基本的感情，那就是珍惜。

什么是珍惜？基本解释为， 因为重视而爱惜。

古代的时候虽然科技并没现在那么的发达，可是人与人之间的关系好像都没现代的那么复杂。现代的人就是因为科技发达，手上常常都拿着智慧手机，不是在传短讯，就是在打机，要不然就是在看面子书。你可能忽略了你身边美好的一切。就是因为你没放下手机，观察身边所发生的全部。在路途上因为一直忙着看手机， 你是否忘了珍惜你所经过美好的风景？看看周围美丽的花朵，稻田，蓝天白云，可能会让你比玩游戏开朗的多。

在爱情的世界里也当然少不了珍惜这两个字。没有谁为谁做事是理所当然的。

 繁忙的工作，不停的为了钱而奋斗的你，生活里就只有工作第一而其他都不比工作来得重要。你又是否可曾忘了那个在家里默默守着你的老婆，煮了饭，菜都凉了等着你回来还得再把饭菜再弄热过。可是她却从没埋怨过一句。你有想过当年的她，可是校园里的校花，你费尽了心思把她娶回家。然后，她从此就当了黄脸婆，因为工作家务事繁忙也为了要帮家省下几分钱，她不再去什么美容院。当年疯狂的购物也成了历史，可能连买衣服都不舍得就是因为要把最好的留给你，献给她所爱的家。你觉得工作烦了，回家就埋怨她煮的饭菜难吃。她忘记帮你烫你明天要穿的衣服也给你大骂一顿。她的苦头只好往心里塞。你是否忘了珍惜？忘了说声谢谢，谢谢你所为我做的一切。偶尔送个小礼物，带她去旅行或帮她做家务。女人是很容易满足，你为她做少少的东西，她可能一世都记在心里头。

大家都听说珍惜眼前人，不要等到失去的时候才后悔。可是说起来又有多少的人，明白这个道理呢？常常我们都是等到失去了，才发现当初有某某人在的时候那该多好。就像是在工作上，我们常常都会埋怨说“怎么这个人做事那样这样，一点贡献都没有”。然后，等到他走了就发现原来以前的他一个人做的可是那么多，原来他一个人扛的那么辛苦，我没感谢他还天天被我骂和埋怨。要不然就是比如你曾经有个很爱很爱你，为了你付出许多的女友。你却重来都没珍惜过她所为你做的一切，还嫌她烦。除至于关心她的你，常常都会问你‘你回到家了吗?你安全的到达目的地了吗？” 狠心的你却一句说，烦死了天天都问我这样的问题。你可曾想过，当年这个为了你付出一切的女孩有一天也会觉得累而选择永远的离开你？那时候这句话就真的用的对了。

谈上父母，他们为了你努力工作养育你成人。帮你付学费，买车给你，买房子给你，却未向你讨过任何一分钱。父母常常都无条件的为儿女们付出，尽管是自己的生活有多困难还是要把最好的给与子女们。有些孩子们就是因为一切来得太容易，在生活当中就是等于以来伸手，饭来张口。就好像一切就是他们因该得到的，却忘了珍惜。

珍惜是一个多么珍贵的字。就是当年的懂得珍惜才换来现在的幸福美满。珍惜换来了他脸上快乐的笑容。珍惜让他知道原来你在他的心中有多么的重要。珍惜就少了后悔当初没做好的决定。珍惜也让人与人之间的关系变得更好。珍惜现在所拥有的所有，满足现在生活上所享受的幸福，少了埋怨，也自然过得快乐。

美好的时光短暂不乏惊喜，很多时候只有懂得珍惜才不会有遗憾。

爱情的保存期限

爱情三部曲 

爱情一开始是多么的甜蜜。从相识的那一刻，从命中注定的遇见，

毕竟是一生中最难忘的一幕。

那时候的你，肯定是感觉他是上天所赐来呵护你的天使。他无微不至的照顾和不顾一切的付出，天天都像糖黏豆，时时都服从你，给于你从来都没被爱过的滋味就是因为要把你得到手。那种被人追得感觉，想念，兴奋和期待对方的感觉多么的美妙温馨。直到终于在一起了，保存着甜蜜期的温和度，天天期待见着对方一起出去拍拖，体验新鲜的挑战，很多很多我们的第一次。第一个拥抱，第一吻，第一次的单独旅行，第一次的看日落，第一次和他过生日，第一份的礼物，好多好多的初次的体验。

保存期也有限度，在一起的日子久了，相处得时间也久了也自然的开始发现对方的毛病。开始觉得对方好烦，做什么事都好象不对。当初的等待变成现在的不耐烦 （当初等对方半个小时觉得理所当然，现在等五分钟就开始发火了），当初为对方做的一切变成现在的居多要求（以前叫你端杯水来，你马上就扑过去拿来。现在，你既然说我自己没手没脚不会自己去拿？），当初的甜蜜的约会变成现在的浪费时间 （当时：亲爱的，我们今天去逛街看电影好吗？现在：你看不到我在忙吗？我大把工作你还要我浪费钱去逛街。我赚来的钱都还不够养你。）一开始的时候，花到礼物到要什么就买什么，现在连什么日子都不放在心上了。当初情人节，生日的时用特别的心思计划要带你去什么特别的地方和一连串的节目，现在：“生日嘛年年都过不是吗？我给你钱吧，你要什么自己去买就算了”。当时生那小小的病，他就非常的紧张，然后得到那种无微不至的照顾就好像带你去看医生，买粥买凉茶对你说苦口良药等。可是现在就是，生病当听不见你在伤风咳嗽，这种小病一下就好了。死不掉。

可是不是每个人的感情都属于那么悲观的程度。也许还有蛮多好男人的存在，还一直为对方无条件的付出，一直到白头到老。 看到老公公和老婆婆牵着手一起在公园散步好浪漫吧? 谁有不想象他们一样，一把年纪了还那么的深爱着对方。就是英文说比喻的

 “Till death do us apart…”

至于年轻的一辈的我们，到适合的年龄时，选择就有两个，一就是分手，二就是结婚一起共度一生。那什么又是适合的年龄，什么又是适当的时候？
早婚通常都给大家说成 “偷吃”。当你身边的朋友还在参加派对玩到三更半夜才回家，过着无忧无虑的过生活，早婚的你是否就有着一种非常羡慕的眼光，然后有点后悔当初所做的决定，好想也与他们一样的享受青年的疯狂。 没有玩够的你或对方，都会存放着一种还没尝试过，还是抱着贪玩的念头然后孩子就丢给家人。可怜的还小不懂事的孩子们。

迟婚的你，就是到了一把年龄差不多27-30的时段，就是你每天打开面子书的时候开始发觉怎么身边朋友一个个的po的照片不是求婚，就是注册结婚然后就是婚礼，怀孕和baby的照片。身为的女孩的都会有着一种羡慕的眼光，好想想像自己就是里面穿着婚纱的漂亮的新娘，想着你们以后一起生的孩子有多可爱。

至于那些过了30人家就开始数你说一把年纪了都还没嫁的出，老啦孩子都生不出了。是不是没人要，那里不好找不到好人家嫁出去。 然后身边的亲戚朋友，就是一直问你几时要结婚？你心里很想问一句”你烦不烦啊，每次见你没其他的好问吗？我嫁不出，生不生孩子管你什么事“。然后，结婚了又问你几时要生孩子，要几个孩子，要就快点。没完没了。 

总结，爱情是个长跑，有多少人是能终成眷属从拍拖一样的保存者那样的温度一起步入婚姻的大堂。一段感情的长跑是包容着对方的缺点，两个人一起相处要懂得迁就对方，懂得珍惜眼前的一切。 因为，一旦错过或做错了，机会可能就再也不会出现。