Even the first few photos that we took together is nothing close to decent
Do you remember the day on how things first started?
Honestly, I don't remember when was the first time that I've met you. Obviously, it wasn't a love at first sight for both of us. You got mixed up with me and another girl, thinking that I'm one of the "la-la mui" in the Marketing & Comms Department. And to me, you were just another nerd who sits in the computer lab. We only came to know each other more when you dropped by often to look for your 'smoking-buddy'.
However, I remember the day whereby I bumped into you three times - first was somewhere along the corridor, second was before you enter the lift and called me "jie jie" and third was in front of the one stop centre where I pulled your lanyard and we both felt awkward. The day we got to know each other more is that very day when I collected the projector from you and we ended up chatting for nearly an hour which is when we found common grounds and interests towards each other. That is when perception towards each other changes and we got to know each other better.
Reminisce of such is definitely important for a life long relationship, as we constantly remind each other and cherish these moments. This is when we both first gave each other the 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling. And I still felt so at times now, looking at your from afar and remembering those moments of how I fell in love with you.
I was in the midst of blowing my hair, and he said "Come la, why you blow like that one. Let me do for you"
There were no bouquet, chocolates, gifts, just ...
Small gestures. 31.07.2012 marks the start of our journey from catching a movie. During the whole duration before we started, all you gave to me was just Ochado, egg tarts, Starbucks, McDonald's RM1 cone ice cream, nougats (souvenir from your ex from Australia). Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, but I'm just trying to say that somethings are not satisfied by through materialistic items minus the nougats! (Don't ever recycle things from your ex and pass on to a girl, that's like the worse thing to do ever).
Our relationship was built on the small little things that we did for each other and it's the little things that makes a big difference.
Hence, until to date, you've never failed to leave the toothbrush with toothpaste for me, you will always make sure there's a cup of water or constantly remind me to do so, vice versa that the little things that I will still continue to do for all the years to come.
Someone said that I will only get this once at the beginning of the relationship.
Hmm... I'm not getting such similar things now, but many other little things that I do cherish a lot
You were the right one
Nope, there ain't a meteor that fell hard on my head and I'm like "Yes ! You are the right one". It was after a series of getting to know each other better and sharing the same goals that we have for life, the feeling that was built over time that made us sure that we were the right one for each other.
You are the only one who took a DISC personality test and got the same result as mine amongst 200 other colleagues around. They said opposite attracts, but I said, you need to be with a person who somehow share the same perspective in life to be able spend the rest of your life together.
Of course, we are different in other ways too. I'm terrible on roads whereby I literally have no sense of direction and I tend to get mix up with left and right at times and worse is when I can't find where I parked my car. Whereas, he have trouble with planning ahead and time management.
These are the drawbacks at times but these were made to compliment each other especially when we were travelling. I would be the planner who does all the itinerary, mapping and he would be the navigator throughout the journey.
Nope, it's definitely not love at first sight.
We grew to know each other better before committing to signing our lives off to each other.
Taught me more on compassion, kindness ...
Most of the time, I would just brush my way through the busy crowd and I barely notice the people around me. Whereas after being with you, I've learned how to held the lift and give ways to others (not the on road, because yourself would turn into a monster) and be kind of others who's in need of help (even you know when they're just cheating you and yet you still want to try your luck).
It says that your partner actually reflects of the other person, which to the extend that it's very true indeed. Thanks to you, I've became a more sensible person again and picked up the bits and pieces of traits that I used to have, but gone missing over the past years.
The journey that we have been together doing just a small act of kindness along the way
You make me smile like a sun, fall outta bed, sing like a bird
I believed that many around me have not seen such smile and happiness from me since the past years ever since the recovery from depression. I would say that the first step is to help yourself, or no one can help you walk out of it at all.
They noticed it almost immediately that there's something really different somehow. I guess you felt the same, that we brought the long lost joy into each other's life again. Never once that you could imagine I'm this crazy girl who would do random things and speak alien language at times that we have our own dictionary of words that only we ourselves understand. Neither I did foresee that you are one who tell lame jokes that I don't even know if I should laugh or cry.
I remember the times when I was walking alone and how I thought of you and I started smiling like a fool. And those messages that we used to send to each other to brighten each other's day with a little encouragement that goes along the way. - You make my heart smile.
I find happiness in the simplest of things
I'm not only your wife, but your little fan along the way
It's pretty important to be proud of your other half when you speak of one another. I'm always proud of you and I could go on like the whole day about the things you could do or you are doing, though mostly that I only understand half of them minus all the coding languages. Honestly, I've never thought that I would marry someone that I could look up to, having such a strong personality and being independent most of the time, I prefer to get things done by myself.
Although you always tease me with the next line that I'm gonna question you "How you know one?", and you're gonna tell me "Common sense" but it's true that I've learned a lot having you to look up to all these while. If one day I were to be the audience sitting amongst the crowd looking at you when you speak, I would definitely feel extremely proud to know acknowledge that the person up there is my dear husband.
I've always admire how you could figure the logic of putting things together with all the DIY furniture at home until the extend of fixing all the miscellaneous stuffs at home.
I wondered if you do brag about your wife at times on the meals and dessert that she made for you. And how talented is she with all the artworks that she have done or how well she sing just like Adele (I wish). Or how hardworking and a fast leaner she is in most of the things :P *self praise mode*
I wouldn't have been able to do this on my own, putting all those wood and screws together and build a bed of our own.
Fate determines the ones that came through your life, you decide the outcome...
We felt that we have known each other for very long though it was just a short period of time and this scenario explains it all. All along we knew that we were from the same primary school, but we never thought that we would have met each other by any chance since we were in different grade. Until that very day when the red van appeared and we realised that we used to take the same transport to school for about a year before we parted ways.
That was how fate brought us back together again after close to 18 years. Having to find out that you were that chubby little boy who always skipped school or miss the van for being late and I'm that little girl who was clumsy who always end up with bruises and wound on my knee.
Therefore, our choice of being together 3 years ago wasn't just based on fate, since we only found out about this much later. It was purely a leap of faith when you don't always need a plan in life, to not regret in chances that you didn't take in life.
Fate brought us together, but it's both job to work together to make this relationship last for good
Gratitude & Appreciation
We are too busy looking at the big things around us and often left out the small little things in our life that matters a lot. Thank you for constantly showing your appreciation for everything that I've done for you whether it's a meal that I've cooked or small little gestures. And I do appreciate the time that you've made for us despite the constant busy schedule due to work and all.
When I was told to only marry you one day when you're deemed successful
I refuse to choose to marry you when you are somebody one day. I refuse to only settle down with you when you are earning a million bucks. That is because most of the women who have been with their husband when they started with nothing and support them throughout will probably stay alongside for good no matter what is to come in the future.
At least I know that I'm that person, who started with you when you have almost nothing during the startup, and the things that we have been through and build with our own hands and make do with only what we had that brought us together even closer than anyone else could imagine.
Successful has a relatively wide range of definition. And to me, you and I are pretty successful at our age earning a decent income and living a simple life.
The right time?
There ain't a right time, there's only regrets to not make the right choice at the moment when you knew that it was the right thing to do.
Fate have brought us back together, and it's our choice to make the decision. There's no need to wait upon on fate and put a test to it to say that fate will make us stick together forever. The decision of getting married is the choice of both to commit to a life long journey to build a foundation of both that have nothing to do with fate or destiny but more of putting the efforts to make things work.
One doesn't come into argument and blame today being a bad day as written on the lunar calendar, but a relationship is about listening, giving in and talk things through to move on in life.
A relationship last is because two person make a choice to keep it, fight for it, and work for it.
Just like 'Up', I will be with you till the end
Happy 3rd Anniversary
3 years. It's not that long after all, but somehow it felt really long. Perhaps it was due to what we have accomplished in such a short time and the things that we have been through together. How we started from 0 and we decided to get a place of our own due to limitation and out of convenience. Saving our asses off to pay for the deposit, renovation and with the graciousness of my family sponsoring some of the appliances to make our home complete.
It wasn't an easy journey at all for the past 1 year, with all the hard work that we have placed painting the whole place on our own and even the doors, fixing the DIY furniture until it's almost complete now.
From the proposal to the whole marriage planning, though there were many ups and downs along the way, but I'm sure we have grown as the commitments grow bigger as well. The obstacle for not receiving the blessing was the biggest challenge of all to overcome. We knew that what is to come will not be easy, I appreciate the perseverance that you had throughout this period of time and all the efforts that you have placed in to make things possible for us.
I can't express how much I look forward to our wedding. Though it's just a simple one, but I would cherish every single memory and experience that we had or have yet to go through together. Can't wait to take the pre-wedding photos and video and imagine how funny they would they turn out to be. Can't wait for the actual day for all the joy and fun that are yet to come.
All the anticipation sums to a whole of spending our life together to build a family of our own.
Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other,
bound by the courage to grow struggle into bliss
All I wish...
I wanna marry you because you're the first person I wanna look at when I wake up in the morning, and the only one I want to kiss goodnight. I wanna hold your hand and fall asleep until they sweat and never let go. When you love someone as much as I love you, getting married is the only thing left to do.
Despite having our own place, under circumstances that we could not spend each and every night together. Therefore I would cherish what's left when there isn't an option available. I deeply still wish that these wishes do come true.
I could have continue on and on and write a novel out of us, but I just want you to know how much you really meant to me. I meant each and every word that was written here, and I would want to spend the rest of my life with you. 3 years and going strong and more to come till we grow old together. You are my one and only since the day I said yes to you and I shall hold on to this commitment as long as I could. There's only three words left to say - I love you :)
牵起了手就不要轻易的放手
你和我的缘分就像绑着一条红线,
17年后的再次相遇虽然不是一见钟情，
但我和你相处的感觉就那么的熟悉,
仿佛就像已认识多年的好朋友
兜兜转转你再次回到我的身边，
有缘的成为了夫妇，
难得的一段感情然我更珍惜我们的所有，
但愿我们 执子之手，白头偕老。
Happy Anniversary my dear, and I love you.
