Sunday, November 15, 2015

Jermsusu - Our Wedding.

This random quote 做人不需要太过于迷信。这只会苦了自己,也苦了身边的人。
..... which means, don't be too superstitious in life, you not only make your life difficult but others around you as well.



Based on most of the chinese believe, they will look at your zodiac and the year that you are born then make some judgement that what would happen to both if they were to get married. I am born in the year of Tiger and my hubby is born in the year of Rabbit. So with some so called 'logical' thinking, I shall eat up my Rabbit husband and he will obey to me for the rest of our lives together. And the calculation said that we are both born in the year of 'fire', so we will end up arguing most of the time and not have a happily ever after live. Also, with lots of other horrible things that you would not want to know.

Now, look at my poker face. Do you ever think myself and hubby going to give a damn about all these nonsense? I am straight forward and I hate bull shits. And he love me for being honest most of the time when I am mad, I just poured out everything and next I would forget what I've just said and fell asleep. Most of the time, he would also forget what I said and carrying on with his work.



So we decided that our lives are not determine by all these superstition but is our own choice to make things possible. Which is how we choose to communicate and give in to each other having to commit ourselves to this very decision to spend the rest of our lives together.

This is such a potong steam to start the post.



We are half way through our wedding preparations and the date is drawing close. There's much anticipation that the day would come soon, but at the same time, I also wish that the day would end as fast as possible so that we could get over and head to our long awaited road trip honeymoon.



I managed to finished the close to 30-40 pages of run down of event, or I don't know what to call the prep sheet that was given by my bestie. I've purchased most of the things that we need for the wedding from gowns, ji mui and heng dai's attires, decorations for the car and photobooth, accessories when the exchange rate was still fairly ok *phewww*. Sure feels good to see the checklist being ticked off one by one.



What's left is just things to do closer to the date which is like printing of invitation cards and distribution and the tradition 'gor tai lei'. I am so glad that my parents are really open minded and easy going that we need not follow every single traditional things that's like kinda memafankan.

Many said that there were many arguments and the process is tough for a wedding.



I would agree so. But at the same time, I am glad that both of us share the same view in life and therefore we do know each other pretty well. Taking prewedding photos was rather easy for us as well with that kind of chemistry that we shared since we got together and hopefully last for good.


Picking of a place was decided within a week. Whereby we just shortlisted only 2 restaurants and we agreed that we want chinese food and our main priorities are location and the food must be good. So, we went and surveyed two places and just made a call the next day and booked the place. Picking of wedding band was done in 1 Utama within 2 hours, we only saw 3-4 shops and we decided immediately after we saw that pair of ring in Wah Chan. PreWedding photographer was decided after I tabulated quiet a bit of comparisons and based on our budget, we got a good feeling about them. Gowns and theme was my decision since he trusted my taste. Most of the things we decided easily without much arguments, sorry what 'superstition' I heard from the background? In all, there's no need to make life so difficult.

Honestly, I worked really hard to make this wedding possible. And us who manage to make things worked out within a very short period of time. 1 year to get a place and 1 year to save up for wedding. Those things that you see on Facebook? They were just as good as they are, but the things that we have been through behind the scene was not a smooth sailing journey. Nevertheless, this whole life long journey is a learning path for both of us. Also, each obstacle that we went through is a stepping stone to another one that keeps our relationship strong.

Till then. I've written a whole budget wedding tutorial in a forum.






Wednesday, August 19, 2015

给老公的一封信,我要和你同床共枕

亲爱的老公,


在世界上几亿人当中,就随那无形的红线邦在我们的手上靠着缘分把我们带到一起。我们的相遇并非巧合也不是一见钟情。没有着像童话故事里的公主和王子的相遇一般精彩,只期望和你简单的共度一生。

20年前的相遇让我们在彼此的童年留下了少许的回忆。当时的我们只是一般调皮的小孩,没想过我们会在20年后的相遇变成彼此的一生一世。小时候的你帮我取了一个伤了我自尊心的花名- “智障”。虽然我们两个都不迷信,仿佛就好像是现在回来弥补过去的过错。我们在其中遇到不少的人和事,各自都长大成人,随着时间的流逝靠着缘分的相随才有再次的相遇。

你再次的出现改变了我原本的所有,把我从水深火热中拉了一把。当时天真的我,为了那种以为是爱情的感情而放不下,也离不开。 直到察觉已长大的我需要的是一个可靠的男人,一个懂得珍惜也爱护我的男人。你并没把我抢走,只是你的出现把在昏睡的我叫醒。 让我更清楚地看到了所有。当时下定决心的我,有着你的陪伴才鼓起了勇气选择离开。

当然,如果某一个人能让另一个人改变,他或她对他的有相当的影响之力才能导致对方做出那样的决定。就像你改变了我好多我没察觉到的坏习惯,而我也让你把许多的过去都做出改变。我从来都没发现过原来我吃饭时是常常都把头低下,也就是不管任何时刻都爱吃油炸东西 。你也从未想过要为一个女孩的一句话而戒烟。也没想过当初那么爱改装车的你,现在会既然想要比较实际的东西。还有常常泡夜店喝酒,和朋友吹水既然会选择放弃这全部换作陪我在家里看戏和过着平静省钱的生活。

如果现在我们所烦恼的问题不纯在,你的确是百分百的好老公。就像范玮琪的歌 “你是我最重要的决定” 那一句歌词- 我常在想应该在也找不到任何人想你对我那么好。一个刷牙时会记得挤牙膏在我的牙刷上,一个知道我爱吃虾但又懒得剥虾壳,一个比我还会煮饭,一个觉得我的快乐比任何东西都重要,一个会去学做我最爱吃的蛋糕,一个会帮我拿衣服出去晒,一个到了目的地自然会传简讯尽量都不让我担心,一个帮我的朋友们都当自己的朋友,一个对我家人大方,一个会陪我一起笑 一起难过,一个把最好的都留下给我,一个不介意我晚上都跟我的‘会发出声音的宝贝’睡觉,一个跟我一起无聊撒娇,一个能和我为了我们往后的日子一起同甘共苦的男人,一个会在我诉苦时细心聆听,一个对我有万分的耐心,一个对我不离不弃的好男人。虽然一时都说不完,者全部就代表着我感激所有数不尽的你对我的好。

我承认曾想过要过像童话故事里面公主般的生活。但是在现实世界当中,已经没有王子的存在。而且王子也不可能看上我这一般的女孩。当初勇敢的我向你告白,因为在我眼里我看到了一个能和我相守到老的你。你并非是我的王子,可是你是我能陪我一生的伴侣。一个能握着我的手直到人老朱旺,直到我们两个变成老公公老婆婆还是那么的恩爱的好老公。当时的你用了好多借口来拒绝我的告白,虽然说好想就这样算了。可是,发现原来忘不了也放不下的不是我,而是你没察觉到你已被我真诚坦率的性格打动。

借问有谁会对一个没意思的女孩给与万分的关怀。还记得有一天你不让伤风感冒的我走到外面的店去吃午餐。你找了一把雨伞,坚持的要帮我撑伞。也有一天你知道我在外面吃饭,看到天空下起雨了你就打电话问我在那里要接我回去。我说要喝“贡茶”你就真的打包了给我。还凌晨带了我这个不会喝酒的傻妹去诊所。当时你被名为“晒月光男孩”,因为常常都半夜来接我聊到凌晨才送我回家。单独的约我出去看戏。坚持的你难道有那么难承认你已经爱上了我? 也可能这一直以来显得坚强的我在你的背后却显得想让你有着想保护我脆弱的一面。

跟你在一起有着一种很幸福的感觉。躺在你胸怀当中就仿佛忘记了所有的烦恼。靠在你的肩膀上就让我有着那种小鸟依人的感觉。抱着你就让我感觉好温暖好温馨。我紧你的手让我觉得很有安全感。当初刚开始的爱直到现在的爱并没有改变,只有日夜增长一天比一天的更加想和你有个我们自己的家庭。

当时跟我在一起的你,我们都赞成了三个月的试用期。但却发觉试用期没过已知道对方是我们一直都在等待的人。在创业的你告诉我说你什么都没有,你可以给我的只是你的爱和关怀。我没介意这一切愿意一起和你同甘共苦。将近三年直到现在,我们靠双手一起的努力有了自己的都算齐全的一间家。毕竟有些人觉得这得来的一切都很容易,但我可以大声的说你们并不知道背后一切的故事。当中的每一分钱都是来自血汗所努力回来的一切。

还好有教会我从小要储蓄的习惯,除了用来给我大学的费用也在这7-8年内储蓄了一笔钱。牺牲也就必然,不再去美容院,宁愿去廉价的发廊剪头发,想染头发做护理都在家自己做就好了,不再买美容化妆品,少点买衣服和鞋子,少吃点商场餐厅吃多点杂饭, 平时都不爱也不追名牌东西,全部省下的钱就换来给我们有个温暖的家。试问在这个年代又有多少个女孩愿意牺牲原有的所有还愿意付出多一倍就是为了将来。这一切都是我心甘情愿,因为我所为你做的所有都值得。换作是以前,我一定不会这样做。

二十年后难得的两情相悦和当中的所有,面对着现在并非是我们之间的问题。这全部重重考验也让我们经历了不少。解决不了的问题就没必要再提,毕竟改变一个人是多么的难。而且一个人选择要用什么心情对待每一件事,我们是没有权利为他们选择。我们选择不迷信,而相信两个人的幸福或能不能相守到老是因为爱着对方而为对方所做出的一切。当中包含着对彼此的忍耐及包容,用心的聆听对方等。而不是因为凭着那几句没根据的评语就选择相信而选择放弃对方。

就算是多么的艰难,不受到肯定,也常常受到批评和不公平的待遇,虽然也很多次的有想过好想放弃,可是还是坚持的走了下去。我们还有一段很遥远的路要走,只希望这段路不会那么的坎坷。虽然我一直都不明白为什么要处处逼尽,让身边所有的人都过的那么的痛苦,难道看到身边的人难过会让自己好过一点,还是到头来结果发现是为了自己的所作所为而一无所有,就不能放开怀试着接受,可能看到的另一面是多么的快乐。

我最终想要的只是能和你过着平淡的生活。不需要一个做给人家看及夸张的婚礼,只要一个简单温馨的婚礼。我期望我们能想其他夫妇一样平常的一起过生活。我不需要你当任何集团的仲裁,也不需要你是什么百万富翁。钱的确能解决许多问题但是有很多东西不是能有钱就能买到。我不认同结婚一定是要等到大富大贵才嫁的风光。反而觉得如果两个人是真心诚意的想要在一起,我们可以为彼此努力。然后一起奋斗迈向我们两的目的地。

很多成功人士都是因为背后有着一个好老婆的支持才会走到今天的成功大道。李光耀背后的爱情故事大家都众所周知。当时的他们只是大学毕业也是一无所有,也不是靠一起的努力才换回来的吗?这才叫做真爱。毕竟有了一个好老婆不是一个拖累,也不是包袱。而是一个在你背后默默不离不弃的精神和金钱支柱。如果我真的是那样所谓想在你身上拿到什么好处的一个女孩,当初的你是根本就不会看上我。我也不可能在你什么都没有的时候答应跟你在一起。试问在做出结论之前,又有考虑过我的真心诚意。

有那个女孩看到婚纱店外面摆的衣服就不会想去回头多看几眼。我也是一位女孩,我也会回头望一望。想像如果是我穿着那个梦幻的婚纱在“三朵里尼“拍照那该有多浪漫。 可是我宁愿选择跟对的人在一起,这所有都变的不重要。就算是我们只可以在本地的场所拍摄,也可以一样是那么的幸福和快乐。俗语说人比人逼死人。如果要跟他人比较那可是一个没完没了的结果。这个道理可不是每个人都明白。

有时的确觉得梦里比现实来的好,在苏醒的那个时刻不想在梦里醒过来。醒了有着一种空虚感,就好像现实世界里总少了什么是的。慢慢的变成了一种恐惧感,也渐渐造成心灵上无可弥补的一种创伤。试问过自己,我真的算是你的老婆吗?做这个老婆还做得比任何人都委屈似的。我们有自己的家,可是怎么跟老婆一起过生活,一起睡觉好像是犯罪一样。朋友们都不好意思的问了一声,到底你是老婆还是不见得光的情妇? 

做老婆的当然希望能每天在你身边苏醒。可是这大家都认为应当的,却对我来说是那么难得到的一件事情。一个那么简单的道理却是我常常都需要努力的去争取才有那少少,就像一个乞丐一样。连坐下来吃好好的吃一顿饭,一个月一个手,不是双手都可以数的完的次数。我想告诉你,我也是个人啊。一个有感受的人,我也会觉得累。也会觉得为什么我付出了那么多,不但没得到认同还连一连串简单的东西都要去求回来。试想我心里又多难受。晚上的偷偷在枕头所流的眼泪,也只可以等到天亮让他们慢慢的干去。

我的要求很高吗?真的有那么难才能达到?取悦他人来的重要,而我的感受就好像是永远排在最后。我永远都是那个要做出牺牲的人,把一切都吞入肚子里常常当作是什么都没发生过,什么都得过且过。但我想真的告诉你,我好累了。我想有我自己的一个家。我想有一个可以明真言顺和我一起共枕的老公。我想回到家,可以煮一餐温饱的晚餐,可以一起好好的坐下来吃饭,谈天而不是每次都似乎要赶来赶去。我想每晚都可以和我所为的老公说声晚安。我想每天在他的身边苏醒,让我觉得我不是一个人面对这所有的考验。

老公,我珍惜也感激你为我所做的一切,可是我想告诉你我累了。真的好累,好累。

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

3 Years and a Lifetime

Fairy tales always ended with happy endings because they are made up stories which doesn't happen in real life. Our story was nothing close to magical but efforts that both put into together in all these years into making things possible.

Even the first few photos that we took together is nothing close to decent

Do you remember the day on how things first started? 
Honestly, I don't remember when was the first time that I've met you. Obviously, it wasn't a love at first sight for both of us. You got mixed up with me and another girl, thinking that I'm one of the "la-la mui" in the Marketing & Comms Department. And to me, you were just another nerd who sits in the computer lab. We only came to know each other more when you dropped by often to look for your 'smoking-buddy'. 

However, I remember the day whereby I bumped into you three times - first was somewhere along the corridor, second was before you enter the lift and called me "jie jie" and third was in front of the one stop centre where I pulled your lanyard and we both felt awkward. The day we got to know each other more is that very day when I collected the projector from you and we ended up chatting for nearly an hour which is when we found common grounds and interests towards each other. That is when perception towards each other changes and we got to know each other better.

Reminisce of such is definitely important for a life long relationship, as we constantly remind each other and cherish these moments. This is when we both first gave each other the 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling. And I still felt so at times now, looking at your from afar and remembering those moments of how I fell in love with you.

I was in the midst of blowing my hair, and he said "Come la, why you blow like that one. Let me do for you"

There were no bouquet, chocolates, gifts, just ...
Small gestures. 31.07.2012 marks the start of our journey from catching a movie. During the whole duration before we started, all you gave to me was just Ochado, egg tarts, Starbucks, McDonald's RM1 cone ice cream, nougats (souvenir from your ex from Australia). Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, but I'm just trying to say that somethings are not satisfied by through materialistic items minus the nougats! (Don't ever recycle things from your ex and pass on to a girl, that's like the worse thing to do ever). 

Our relationship was built on the small little things that we did for each other and it's the little things that makes a big difference.

Hence, until to date, you've never failed to leave the toothbrush with toothpaste for me, you will always make sure there's a cup of water or constantly remind me to do so, vice versa that the little things that I will still continue to do for all the years to come.

Someone said that I will only get this once at the beginning of the relationship. 
Hmm... I'm not getting such similar things now, but many other little things that I do cherish a lot

You were the right one
Nope, there ain't a meteor that fell hard on my head and I'm like "Yes ! You are the right one". It was after a series of getting to know each other better and sharing the same goals that we have for life, the feeling that was built over time that made us sure that we were the right one for each other.

You are the only one who took a DISC personality test and got the same result as mine amongst 200 other colleagues around. They said opposite attracts, but I said, you need to be with a person who somehow share the same perspective in life to be able spend the rest of your life together.

Of course, we are different in other ways too. I'm terrible on roads whereby I literally have no sense of direction and I tend to get mix up with left and right at times and worse is when I can't find where I parked my car. Whereas, he have trouble with planning ahead and time management.

These are the drawbacks at times but these were made to compliment each other especially when we were travelling. I would be the planner who does all the itinerary, mapping and he would be the navigator throughout the journey.

Nope, it's definitely not love at first sight. 
We grew to know each other better before committing to signing our lives off to each other. 

Taught me more on compassion, kindness ...
Most of the time, I would just brush my way through the busy crowd and I barely notice the people around me. Whereas after being with you, I've learned how to held the lift and give ways to others (not the on road, because yourself would turn into a monster) and be kind of others who's in need of help (even you know when they're just cheating you and yet you still want to try your luck).

It says that your partner actually reflects of the other person, which to the extend that it's very true indeed. Thanks to you, I've became a more sensible person again and picked up the bits and pieces of traits that I used to have, but gone missing over the past years.

The journey that we have been together doing just a small act of kindness along the way

You make me smile like a sun, fall outta bed, sing like a bird 
I believed that many around me have not seen such smile and happiness from me since the past years ever since the recovery from depression. I would say that the first step is to help yourself, or no one can help you walk out of it at all.

They noticed it almost immediately that there's something really different somehow. I guess you felt the same, that we brought the long lost joy into each other's life again. Never once that you could imagine I'm this crazy girl who would do random things and speak alien language at times that we have our own dictionary of words that only we ourselves understand. Neither I did foresee that you are one who tell lame jokes that I don't even know if I should laugh or cry.

I remember the times when I was walking alone and how I thought of you and I started smiling like a fool. And those messages that we used to send to each other to brighten each other's day with a little encouragement that goes along the way. - You make my heart smile.

I find happiness in the simplest of things 

I'm not only your wife, but your little fan along the way
It's pretty important to be proud of your other half when you speak of one another. I'm always proud of you and I could go on like the whole day about the things you could do or you are doing, though mostly that I only understand half of them minus all the coding languages. Honestly, I've never thought that I would marry someone that I could look up to, having such a strong personality and being independent most of the time, I prefer to get things done by myself.

Although you always tease me with the next line that I'm gonna question you "How you know one?", and you're gonna tell me "Common sense" but it's true that I've learned a lot having you to look up to all these while. If one day I were to be the audience sitting amongst the crowd looking at you when you speak, I would definitely feel extremely proud to know acknowledge that the person up there is my dear husband.

I've always admire how you could figure the logic of putting things together with all the DIY furniture at home until the extend of fixing all the miscellaneous stuffs at home.

I wondered if you do brag about your wife at times on the meals and dessert that she made for you. And how talented is she with all the artworks that she have done or how well she sing just like Adele (I wish). Or how hardworking and a fast leaner she is in most of the things :P *self praise mode*

I wouldn't have been able to do this on my own, putting all those wood and screws together and build a bed of our own.

Fate determines the ones that came through your life, you decide the outcome...
We felt that we have known each other for very long though it was just a short period of time and this scenario explains it all. All along we knew that we were from the same primary school, but we never thought that we would have met each other by any chance since we were in different grade. Until that very day when the red van appeared and we realised that we used to take the same transport to school for about a year before we parted ways.

That was how fate brought us back together again after close to 18 years. Having to find out that you were that chubby little boy who always skipped school or miss the van for being late and I'm that little girl who was clumsy who always end up with bruises and wound on my knee.

Therefore, our choice of being together 3 years ago wasn't just based on fate, since we only found out about this much later. It was purely a leap of faith when you don't always need a plan in life, to not regret in chances that you didn't take in life.

Fate brought us together, but it's both job to work together to make this relationship last for good

Gratitude & Appreciation
We are too busy looking at the big things around us and often left out the small little things in our life that matters a lot. Thank you for constantly showing your appreciation for everything that I've done for you whether it's a meal that I've cooked or small little gestures. And I do appreciate the time that you've made for us despite the constant busy schedule due to work and all.

When I was told to only marry you one day when you're deemed successful
I refuse to choose to marry you when you are somebody one day. I refuse to only settle down with you when you are earning a million bucks. That is because most of the women who have been with their husband when they started with nothing and support them throughout will probably stay alongside for good no matter what is to come in the future.

At least I know that I'm that person, who started with you when you have almost nothing during the startup, and the things that we have been through and build with our own hands and make do with only what we had that brought us together even closer than anyone else could imagine.

Successful has a relatively wide range of definition. And to me, you and I are pretty successful at our age earning a decent income and living a simple life.



The right time?
There ain't a right time, there's only regrets to not make the right choice at the moment when you knew that it was the right thing to do.

Fate have brought us back together, and it's our choice to make the decision. There's no need to wait upon on fate and put a test to it to say that fate will make us stick together forever. The decision of getting married is the choice of both to commit to a life long journey to build a foundation of both that have nothing to do with fate or destiny but more of putting the efforts to make things work.

One doesn't come into argument and blame today being a bad day as written on the lunar calendar, but a relationship is about listening, giving in and talk things through to move on in life.

A relationship last is because two person make a choice to keep it, fight for it, and work for it.

Just like 'Up', I will be with you till the end


Happy 3rd Anniversary

3 years. It's not that long after all, but somehow it felt really long. Perhaps it was due to what we have accomplished in such a short time and the things that we have been through together. How we started from 0 and we decided to get a place of our own due to limitation and out of convenience. Saving our asses off to pay for the deposit, renovation and with the graciousness of my family sponsoring some of the appliances to make our home complete.

It wasn't an easy journey at all for the past 1 year, with all the hard work that we have placed painting the whole place on our own and even the doors, fixing the DIY furniture until it's almost complete now.

From the proposal to the whole marriage planning, though there were many ups and downs along the way, but I'm sure we have grown as the commitments grow bigger as well. The obstacle for not receiving the blessing was the biggest challenge of all to overcome. We knew that what is to come will not be easy, I appreciate the perseverance that you had throughout this period of time and all the efforts that you have placed in to make things possible for us.

I can't express how much I look forward to our wedding. Though it's just a simple one, but I would cherish every single memory and experience that we had or have yet to go through together. Can't wait to take the pre-wedding photos and video and imagine how funny they would they turn out to be. Can't wait for the actual day for all the joy and fun that are yet to come.

All the anticipation sums to a whole of spending our life together to build a family of our own.


Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other, 
bound by the courage to grow struggle into bliss

All I wish...
I wanna marry you because you're the first person I wanna look at when I wake up in the morning, and the only one I want to kiss goodnight. I wanna hold your hand and fall asleep until they sweat and never let go. When you love someone as much as I love you, getting married is the only thing left to do.

Despite having our own place, under circumstances that we could not spend each and every night together. Therefore I would cherish what's left when there isn't an option available. I deeply still wish that these wishes do come true.

I could have continue on and on and write a novel out of us, but I just want you to know how much you really meant to me. I meant each and every word that was written here, and I would want to spend the rest of my life with you. 3 years and going strong and more to come till we grow old together. You are my one and only since the day I said yes to you and I shall hold on to this commitment as long as I could. There's only three words left to say - I love you :)

牵起了手就不要轻易的放手

你和我的缘分就像绑着一条红线,
17年后的再次相遇虽然不是一见钟情,
但我和你相处的感觉就那么的熟悉,
仿佛就像已认识多年的好朋友

兜兜转转你再次回到我的身边,

有缘的成为了夫妇,
难得的一段感情然我更珍惜我们的所有,
但愿我们 执子之手,白头偕老。

Happy Anniversary my dear, and I love you.




Wednesday, April 29, 2015

这一生你能遇见这三个人

完美的结局只发生在童话故事。在现实生活当中,一个幸福的家庭是需要经过无数的考验以及磨练才能从中熬的过来。

爱情一开始永远都是那么的甜蜜。可是一当时间久了,很多东西从浪漫就慢慢的开始变了理所当然。要一直保持着那样的状况一起走到最后并不容易。这是要靠着双方的努力,双方守着当初对对方许下的承诺而一直的走下去。只要一方开始把手松开,另一方就能自然的感觉得到。 另一方可以选择试着把对方的手握紧,用着方式把对方扯回来。可是毕竟如果时间久了付出的太多,一方面就自然而然的感觉厌倦而选择放手。

当你踏入婚姻,睡在你隔壁的枕边人,他再也不是你生活当中的路人,而是你的亲人。你已不是考虑爱与不爱,而是能不能容忍跟容纳对方。

如果这一生你能遇见这三个人:你最爱的人,最爱你的人和你共度一生的人 ,而他们全部都是同一人,幸运的你应该值得好好的去珍惜这段缘分。

Saturday, January 3, 2015

No Act of Kindness is Too Small - One Day Journey to Temerloh #SavePantaiTimur

There were tragedies after tragedies during the year of 2014 for our country. Including the recent flood that's still on going currently in our country.

All these started with just a simple liner "Feeling like just going over to give a little help to the flood victims, instead of staying back here with all the petty issues that's not necessary at all".

Let's skip that part and fast forward.

After a few days, my fiance just randomly asked me if I would like to tag along with him if we found some people who are heading to the flood areas to help the victims. We didn't really have a concrete plan that time. Initially we wanted to head to the more serious place and stay over a few nights, however due to safety concerns, he decided that we should just do a one day trip down to Temerloh with the assistance of Hezry since his family and there's some locals that would be able to guide and assist us.

Why Temerloh? This place is not the worse affected area, however there are people who are stranded in their house without electricity and water supplies. They might not have enough supplies if they're not staying in the relief centres and there's villages that needs boat to transport such goods to them.

Photo credits: Hezry


In just 2 days and a posting on Facebook, with some mutual friend's sharing, we got almost RM1,000.00 of donations from friends around and many who offered to purchase goods, supplies and medicine for us to bring over there. We rush off from work on new year's eve to collect the truck from a kind soul who offered to lend us her truck with a full tank of diesel and smartag with credits and started the collections from friends all around PJ. Some of our friends & my family offered to send straight to my house.

Collecting & fetching supplies during NYE

With a house full of supplies and goods, we needed many hands to assist us in the packing. We have things ranges from portable gas stove, biscuits, milo, milk power for adults & kids, sanitary pads, pampers, assorted canned food, clothings, mineral waters, bread, rice, medicine, first aid kits, toiletries etc. My family gladly offered to come over to lend their helping hand for nearly 4 hours just before the clock hits 12a.m. where everyone would be like wishing each other 'Happy New Year' and looking at fireworks. Finally, with everyone's help, we managed to categorised and separate the things into two different batches as there will be two groups heading to two different places tomorrow. And I'm thankful for my aunt who kindly loan out the place and had to clean up after all the packing was done up.

 
Family members who gladly offered to come over to help and my house looking like a temporary relief center

The night continues on for my fiance and myself as we needed to use the donated funds to purchase the goods that we are lacking. We headed to NSK as that's the only hypermarket that's opened for 24 hours. We stocked up supplies of instant noodles, milo, towels, torch lights, batteries and medicine. Finally, we managed to reach home about 3a.m. in the morning with the last minute packing. Headed to bed right away as we will have a long day ahead.

Friend who sent over about 15 portable gas stoves with refills

Our day started at 8a.m. and all the volunteers are here about 9a.m. to help us load all the stuffs up to 3 of the pickup trucks. There were 3 trucks, one with my fiance, my cousin - Sam and myself, the other one with Ian and his friends, another one with a couple who's a friend to the girl who loaned us her truck, then the all girls truck with Beatrice, Michelle and Caitlyn. Yes, more girls volunteered for this mission more than guys! And Beatrice actually drove the truck both ways to Temerloh. We took a while to fit all the goods and tying them properly with canvas just in case there's rain.

Departed and met Hezry at our meeting point in Gombak, on the way to Bentong. Upon arriving the petrol station, I was really touched to see the amount of people and volunteers that swamped the station. And everyone put on a smile on their face, with all the different groups ranges from soldiers, bomba and individual groups. We all knew one thing, we are here to help and we stand as 1Malaysia disregarding our races.
All the trucks at the gas station gathering to depart to different affected areas in our country

Journey to Temerloh continues and we parted into two groups whereby one will be heading to the part that requires boat rides to access the major part of the affected areas and us which will be heading to different small villages to distribute the goods.

As we approached Bentong's toll, there were only 1 lane that's in operations and all the cars were stopped to question where they are heading, then the second toll at Lanchang where we see lesser and lesser cars around and looks like we are the only ones on the road now. Finally we approached the toll close to Temerloh, however that toll was closed as we can see ahead that the whole highway was flooded with water. We used an alternative road and we arrived at our first destination which is a mosque.

We dropped off some goods here for them and they offered us lunch even with limited supplies. We could not bare to reject them, so we just took a little feeling bad that there's not enough for everyone. They were extremely thankful and they treated us so well that they don't even let us wash the dishes.


All they had for their lunch was just simple egg curry, vege and nangka. They still have water supplies, therefore cooking and washing was still possible.

We hold our breath for seconds to cross this road which was half washed away by the water

We bid farewell and continued our journey to the other part of Temerloh. I didn't manage to take down all the names of the villages as we were busy distributing goods. We arrived at one of the distribution centers and there were army delivering supplies to them. So we headed elsewhere and delivered home to home instead. These people are the one that's still in their homes, maybe the relief centers were full, some of their homes were fine but there's no electricity and water. Therefore, they actually don't receive much goods or there's not even enough in the relief centers for everyone.

House submerged under the water, there were dead chicken and animal corpse in the water

Sunning some clothes after the flood

Family feeling thankful after receiving the goods 

Hezry's relatives and friends gladly offered to tag along with us to guide and speak to the locals to ensure that supplies are distributed fairly according to their needs.


Yup that's one big box of sanitary pads that we have on the truck

After that, we entered another village called Kerdau which the access of the roads are flooded. We see more houses that's affected by the flood and some washed away into the river. During the distribution, there were individuals who were thankful and said they had enough and we should save some for the rest who needed more supplies. However, there's also individual that comes around looting stuffs following us every house we stopped and kept saying that he don't have enough for everything. 



The water level rises pretty quickly upon approaching evening time and we couldn't head too far to Jerantut or we might be stranded. Here's a video of how we barely made through the flood. 





Along the way, we have also met many other kind souls that's also distributing goods to the villagers

Finally, after a whole long tiring day, we manage to distribute all our goods to all the villagers. The remaining ones like medical supplies and torch lights were placed on the collection point whereby the villagers will use boats to transport the goods to those who are stranded. Not all the boats were equipped with motors, a guy was using 'dayung' with a full load of stuffs to get into the affected areas. 



As for the other group of us, they have also dropped their supplies in two different areas. Both these areas can't be access by roads any longer and boat was their only means to transport supplies to the villagers. I really can't imagine how they live on for nearly a week without proper electricity and water supplies.









Both the teams have come to an end of the one day mission during late evening, we headed back to KL before the sunset. We were very glad that there's not even a single drop of rain on that day which means the water levels should be going down slowly. 



Rangy decided to leave the car number plate behind as souvenirs after going through the waters. Here marks the end of our journey, feeling extremely tired and exhausted, but everyone have returned home feeling great that we manage to lend a helping hand to the victims. However, these are really just a very small part that we have done. There's still a lot out there that still needs help. Really glad to see how our country united and came together as one during such times, many large corporation, both government and private sponsored goods or make use of their logistic lorries to deliver goods.

The purpose of writing this post is not about glory or having others to thank us for what we have done. This is just to share and let others know and as an encouragement for the younger generation to come to step out of their comfort zone sometimes to help others in need. Nowadays, how often we see others giving priority seats or even helping a blind man to cross the road which what the basics that we have learned in primary school. Maybe if everyone could be just a little selfless at times, this may change a lot of things.

We would like to personally extend our gratitude towards those who have donated in terms of goods and cash:
Aaron, Maddie, Shan, Bryan, K.Sian, Elaine, my aunt, Ann T., W.Ling, Suzanne O., H.Loon, Patrick, Siang T., Michelle, Abrenda, H.Ming, Lily C.,S.Pei, S.Mei, Lillian, Justin, Pui Mun (If we missed out anyone, please do refresh my memory).